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EXCUSSE AND REASON TWO DIFERENT WORDS

An   excuse is a different way to disguise a lie , they are a  cheap way to escape from telling the truth or "real reason" why we do certain things and or make certain decisions

Excuse is also a hide the " coward"  part of ourselves  that does not want to face a situation with maturity and sincerity, instead we hide behind an excuse again to avoid to tell the truth

Why is that, are we afraid?? Or just dishonest??? Cowards??? All that resumes the same.

Excusses are telling you don't have the uts to tell the truth or the real reason why your changed your mind so instead of telling the reason why you want out to hide nbehid a cheap excused

Why don't to tell the truth ?? a good reason or explanation to the other person who is weaiting for you  is always well appreciated

Why excusses?? Excusses hide the real truth , excusse is a cheap chield to avoid telling the real reason

So that is the difference in between an excuse and a reason

Excuse is a lie, a cheap way to escape, t confront, no guts, only cowards put excuses to love only brave hearts tell the truth

Even if it seems cruel or rough truth is better , a real reason shows honesty and respect, excuses are careless, selfish ,  excuses show you don't care to tell the truth  nor you care about the oter persons feelings and or well being.,

You should consider you lucky if you have someone's heart beating because of you, not everyone experience such a bless in life.

Tell the truth if you don't want the relationship  to continue anymore for some reason , speak the truth, be brave enough to tell the truth, be honest ,   wil be painfull but the can heal faster, with  hollow and  meaningless excuses  and or silence  does in creases the other's persons pain and suffering

IRather to face a situation and tell the truth than leaving the other wondering why you left and or why you are not speaking and or why you use such cheap explanations of why you don't have time to share love

The truth is you don't want to share it, so then set the other person free. Free up their heart mind and spirit so that they can move on.

With lies and excuses and or silence you are not only manipulation your own feelings and selfishness but you are also taking the other persons heart upon your self  indirectly deciding for them,

Creating confussion, disappointment sadness, emptiness, if you don't care just say it, do not do this to oter human being simply because you don't share the same feelings,

BE HONEST, DON'T PLAY WITH SOMEONELSES FEELINGS, BE STRAIGHT, BE REAL,, BE UP FRONT,NOBOD YHAS TO LIVE HOLDING ON TO YOUR LIES, THA TIS CRUEL, IF YOU LOVE YOURSELF THEN YOU CAN LOVE EVERYBODY ELSE ND IF YOU DO, LET THEM BE FREE.

In any relationship, one of the first things to suffer is communication. If you can't communicate with each other, then the relationship will fall apart. The thing to do is to prevent communication from ever being a problem. One of the most important aspects of this is to learn how to be a good listener.

• Give Your Undivided Attention
  When your lover wants to talk, put everything else out of your mind and actually be there with them while they are talking. You cannot possibly listen to them if you are thinking about other things you would rather be doing, or have to do.
• Listen To What Is Being Said
  This is especially true if you are in a disagreement. It is very easy to pick out the things in what your partner is saying that you want to hear and can throw back at them. This is not some high school debate class where you score points for winning an argument, this is your sweetheart and your actions here and now will dictate the course of the rest of your life together!
• Look At Them When They Are Talking To You
  Have you ever tried to talk to someone that refused to make eye contact with you? It is very disheartening, especially when you have something important to say. When talking with your sweetie, actually look at them and not around the room.
• Notice The Hidden Emotional Tone
  Very often, your partner won't say exactly what is on their mind straight away and it is up to you to draw them out. By looking for their emotional tone, through their body language, voice inflections etc., you will get a very good indicator of what is actually bothering them and also how it is affecting them.
• Acknowledge Your Partner
  A correct acknowledgement can very often completely resolve a dispute in one go. It has a two-fold effect: 1.) It tells your partner that you have heard and understand what they are saying and 2.) It makes them feel better by releasing some of the emotional baggage that may have built up on the subject. A good rule of thumb when there is a lot of emotional baggage attached to a situation is to acknowledge them by repeating in your own words what they have just said to you.
• Remain Calm
  If your sweetheart is angry, very often they will lash out at you because you are there and are someone they can take their frustration out on. While this may not be pleasant and the most ideal way to handle a situation, I'm afraid it is part of the job description of being a sweetheart. Realize that it is just a way for your sweetie to vent. Also resist the urge to get angry back, it will only make things worse.

The year 2008 has come and gone. There are a lot of thoughts crossing my mind that I would like to share with all of my fans. It's not because of the holiday season or the time of year but just things that have happened over the past few months. I'd like to share these personal thought with you all.

I'd like to ask, "How important it is to notice real love in life?" Most of the time we don't open our eyes and notice what's in front of us. We lead out lives at such a fast pace that we don't stop and think about how special we are when we have someone to love or we are being loved. When you say you love someone and someone loves you back, you should take notice of that because that is something special that doesn't come along everyday. You should listen, be understanding, and keep that unconditional commitment in every way. Many times we think that just being with someone and doing stuff together is considered love. Then when something bad happens we don't want to or take the time to listen.

When you love someone you don't judge or try to change the other person. You're in love with that person because of who they are. You try to be understanding and see where the person is coming from. Many times we are focused on our daily activities and surroundings but when you're in a committed relationship, you are not alone.  Your world then becomes a shared world. A world that is shared between 2 people. It's always important to love yourself but if you let other matters take over your heart you will loose sight and never see the other person. You will never see the other person or give the true love they deserve. Love is when you have a problem and there is a person who lends a shoulder for you to cry on and lend an ear to listen. Love is when one has a problem, or needs to yell, and release some stress. Your partner is there to give you a hug and let you know that everything will be ok. Love is to be there for your partner when they need you the most. No matter what time it is day or night or what the issue maybe.

Love is when you go to sleep and yet you hold the other person in your dreams. They're always in your heart as you watch over you at all times. When you let other activities take over your life, you do no longer love. Your only looking at your self and what you want. You then become selfish to the point where you no loner can commit to the other persons feelings or necessities. Love is when you wake up and your heart is beating for the other person, crying out for the other person. Your whole life is then focused on the other person, which is the way it should be as a couple. Love is to share the plan for the future and the dreams of the future. Love is when you go to sleep and you still miss the person even though the person is right next to you. Love is not to be afraid of anything new. Not to be afraid of the other person emotions to be better. To be the calm water in the ocean.

When you give up your heart you don't hold anything back. Everything is being given away. Love is making every day a magic day not only the good times but the bad times as well. Love is when you walk through life and you take your partners hand and hold on tight. You become each other's guide through the path of life. Love is not only when everything is good and happy but also when things are bad and at there darkest. When things are dark and cloudy love will bring a ray of light and brighten up the darkest night. When you love someone you always think of something good to do to make your partners life better no matter what. No matter how hard your day can get or how busy you are, you just want to run to your partner and tell them how much you love them and thank god that they are next to you.

I always like to compare Love like a fruit tree. The tree will always grow big and strong as long as you provide water and oxygen for it to grow. All things you do or don't do will reflect on the tree and it's wellbeing. The tree will grow according to the way you treat that tree. If you neglect the tree and don't water the tree, the fruit and it's branches will wither and die. The tree will cease to exist.

Remember to listen to someone's heart is part of being in love.

(More to come soon)